Honor Her: A Letter to Husbands of Stay-at-Home Wives

Dear Husbands,
Let’s grow.

You married an intelligent, ambitious woman—full of dreams and drive. For the sake of your family, she chose to press pause on her career to stay home, raise the children, and make a home for all of you.

She may not bring in a paycheck, but she holds your family together.
She makes sure your clothes are ready, your children are supported, and your home is a haven.

She may not wear power suits or sit in boardrooms making decisions that impact thousands.
But trust me—she’s a force.
She runs your home like a CEO, with strategy, grace, and strength.

Never underestimate her. Don’t bring her down. Uplift her.
You know deep down—she’s brilliant.
She could be out there leading, earning, and excelling.
But she chose to lead at home—a decision born not of weakness, but of strength.

She thinks constantly about how to improve herself, her family, and the life you’re building together.
Support her ideas.
Be her number one cheerleader.

Understand her reality:
Some days, she’s physically drained from the endless demands.
Some days, she wonders, Did I make the right choice?
As she watches peers climb the corporate ladder, she wrestles with questions:
Will I ever amount to anything?
Did I waste my best years raising children?

These thoughts swirl in her mind more often than you may know.

But don’t mistake her reflection for regret.
She is fulfilled.

As a mother, she thrives—present, loving, and cherished by your children.
As a wife, she rejoices in your wins, because she knows the prayers, encouragement, and sacrifices behind them.
As a homemaker, she finds joy in the sanctuary she’s built—a true home.

So husband, honour her.
Never compare her.
Celebrate her.

Let’s grow.

— Njoki Mbugua